Override your memories

The best way to overcome past memories is only by living new experiences and creating new memories.

Before we race others its important that we race ourselves and that means overtaking where our last memories ended and going ahead. Nothing is a failure for life, it is just the first or nth iteration of failure beyond which there is success. The willingness to fall and get up and take a go at it again distinguishes achievers from non-achievers. We are wired to think in this current day and age that there isn’t enough time but we can focus on the things that matter to us and leave everything else behind. Do it over and over again, learning with each iteration for the next attempt. Falling and failing are temporary. Achieving meaning is for life.

Past is the enabler

If our tears help us achieve our dreams, we won’t regret it.

Each of us have demons to process from our past. The bad, the ugly, the horrendous.

We can either look at it as something that makes our life miserable and limits the things that we can achieve or we can look at it as something that enables us to grasp things that no other can.

We are all unique in the things that have happened to us. Our experiences, our pains, have carved our hearts like no other. We process dreams, that might seem common, in our own unique way. And this uniqueness creates novel approaches to overcome the hurdles in achieving them. Our past is our great enabler.

Trusting, Caring, Loving.

Trust is probably the single most important ingredient in loving.

Loving = Trusting + Caring

Be it your work or a person. One can start with either, ‘Trusting’ or ‘Caring’ and then eventually add the other but both of them are essential to reach the state of ‘Loving’.

If I care enough about a person but I can’t trust them, I can never be in Love with them. Such a relationship revolves around responsibility. Conversely, if I trust a person but never put the effort to care for them or empathize with their needs the relationship never finds love in it, as there is no reciprocity of the trust.

The same with a task. If I take up a job and simply care for it and don’t trust that the outcome will be in the desired plane, responsibility is at the fulcrum of this relationship. I just do what is required off me. If I simply trust that the job is going to give me the desired outcome and I don’t care towards it, it doesnt find the reciprocity it has provided, limiting the relationship from being a loving one.

We get into relationships with our work and people through life and we often think that either care or trust stands for love, or we confuse caring with trusting and vice-versa. What is it that you claim you Love these days?